Trauma Bonding
“Someday they’ll change and love me for me” or “If I just change (fill in the blank) maybe they’ll be happy”…
I’m sure we’ve said this or even heard one of our friends say it…This could be a sign of someone who is in a trauma bond.
Trauma bonding is an attachment that is formed between an abuser and the one being abused. Typically the one being abused, based out of childhood trauma, mistakes being mistreated as a sign of love. The mistreatment could be blatant or it could be subtle. The person being abused often stays in “survival mode” to keep a sense of safety in their environment.
Trauma bonding can be found in romantic relationships, familial relationships and friendships. The effects of trauma bonding vary from person to person, but it’s important to create awareness of these relationships due to the effects on your overall wellbeing. Awareness can also be the first step in finding freedom from the “bond”.
If you feel as though you may be experiencing trauma bonds, having someone to support your healing is a great step. If you live in California, Life By Design Therapy, has a staff of qualified clinicians to help provide the tool and a safe space for you. Head to the link in our bio to schedule a phone consultation with the therapist of your choice.
P.S. We also have a FREE resource for you as well. The downloadable eBook - Mind-Body Tool Kit can be found in the link in bio as well!
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