Therapy for Couples Looking to Reconnect

Helen Keller once said that “the best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”

Everyone wants to be loved, and many spend their entire lives pursuing it. Yet moments of joy and fulfillment that love is designed to provide as comfort are bits and pieces, sprinkled in with a fair amount of disappointment, resentment, and heartbreak.

Relationships are so fundamental to a healthy life that we go to great lengths to make them work. You may compromise too much, or too little. You may have certain beliefs or habits that are so difficult to break free from and restrict you from having a strong bond with your partner.

You may carry old wounds into a new relationship, and have trouble forgiving or loving yourself making it almost impossible to truly love another. You may have struggled to understand your needs and wants, and that indecision is leading to mixed signals for a lover that needs clarity and healthy boundaries.

You may suffer with poor communication, sometimes wanting to open up when the other person shuts down. Or get accused of things you do not believe are fair. Perhaps it just leads to stubborn arguments where neither partner is willing to back down?

Love can produce such incredible, earth-shattering feelings and also so much torment and heartbreak. When relationships turn for the worst there is plenty of pain, confusion, fear, heartache and uncertainty.

When relationships encounter these hurdles, a professional therapist can help you examine the relationship closely and determine how to proceed.

Moving Forward With Couples Therapy

After spending some time in the “real world” it is easy to get jaded and cynical when it comes to personal relationships and intimacy. We get hurt by them and the years slowly chisel away at our hopes and ambitions that relationships can actually be rewarding and self-fulfilling.

Love is not accurately depicted in Hollywood blockbusters. Everything is not always perfect, sometimes it doesn’t conclude with happy endings.

It is difficult to explain why people hurt each other, but it happens and is a part of life. In a certain way, it is amazing that we even learn to coexist together at some level of functionality when you consider that each person is their own individual with their own beliefs, habits, norms, traditions, personalities, communication styles and backgrounds.

Often, exploring a couples relationship has a lot more to do with the past than the present. While both are important, many people bring in “baggage” and issues long before day one.

There is a famous quote that “one must learn to love oneself before they can love others”, and couples therapy often seeks to discover both self-healing for you and the relationship as a whole.

Relationship Counseling Can Help With Common Relationship Issues

Intimacy is such a special bond that at first it can make you feel like you are on top of the world and that life is truly perfect. Intimate relationships evolve and undergo highs as well as lows.

It is not to say that the relationship is no longer worth pursuing and fighting for, but rather that you have to be honest with each other and open-minded to make the partnership long lasting.

Do you find that one or more of these issues plague your relationship?

• You are finding it increasingly hard to open up and be honest with each other?
• Your partner pushes you away when you need personal affection or emotional support? Or you do the same when the roles are reversed?
• Your contempt for each other is growing and you don’t like the thought of it?
• You and your partner are not operating at the same intimacy levels, or have divergent sex drives?
• Your time spent together is leading to more and more disagreements or full blown arguments?

Infidelity, while obviously one of the biggest relationship issues, is far from the only one. You do not need to let your relationship get to the point where you or your loved one is considering leaving it, or has already cheated to seek professional help from a therapist.

There are solutions that can help save the relationship far before things escalate to that point, and is likely one of the best decisions you will ever make to help save a personal relationship that you fear is wilting before your very eyes.

Holistic and Somatic Therapy for Couples

Marriage therapy and couples counseling is effective because it often helps to have a non-judgmental, non-biased voice of reason to help mediate and oversee the open and honest conversations about the issues you both have with the relationship.

It is naturally easy to get defensive and hurt when you feel like your partner may be attacking you, and not taking any responsibility for their own actions. A good voice of reason can help keep the conversation safe and productive, where no one gets attacked or victimized.

Fittingly, an open mind and honest look at oneself is essential to quality change. You’ve heard it before, but the keep to a long, rewarding relationship is compromise. However, that is only possible with clear and effective communication, the biggest issue that brings couples in for therapy.

Life by Design Therapy endorses holistic and somatic psychotherapy into its approach to couples counseling. We believe that therapy is only effective when it heals the body along with the mind.

Our core principles address healing through a number of different aspects:

• Healing of the Mind
• Healing of the Body
• Healing of Personal Relationships
• Healing of the Spirit

Our therapists at Life by Design Therapy support partnerships of all kinds including open relationships and couples struggling with multicultural or biracial challenges.

Take Action and Change Your Relationship For The Better!

If things don’t feel right anymore in a relationship your heart is probably leading you in the right direction. Is it time to have an open and honest look at your relationship? What can you do better for your partner? What can he or she do for you?

Communication is so vital to healthy relationships yet so often ignored. The groundbreaking results of holistic psychotherapy are breathing new life into relationships that previously looked like they were fading and falling tragedy to separation or worse.

There are many solutions and by taking a mindful approach you can discover powerful ways to begin the healing.

Schedule an initial appointment today to see how we can provide the right resources for your relationship.

https://www.lifebydesigntherapy.com/marriage-counseling