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HOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP MAY CHANGE POST-PANDEMIC
The COVID-19 pandemic brought major changes to every area of our lives, including our romantic relationships. From new couples quarantining together to married couples coworking from home, many relationships faced momentous challenges that brought partners closer together (or pulled them apart).
As we adjust to the "new normal" post-pandemic, we can expect our relationships to further grow, shift, and evolve in novel ways. For example, we may find that our relationship has become stronger as a result of surviving a pandemic together, or that quarantining together strained our connections with our partners.
It's important to normalize all of these changes to our post-pandemic relationships. After all, the COVID-19 pandemic inflicted unprecedented trauma on a global scale, and such a dramatic experience is bound to change the way we relate to ourselves and others. Whatever you and your partner are going through, you are not alone.
Most, if not all, romantic relationships have continued to evolve after the pandemic. Here are some of the most common changes relationships are facing post-pandemic, and how you and your partner can navigate them to bring about the best possible outcome for both individuals.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP MAY BECOME STRONGER.
Many committed relationships, including married couples, benefited from increased time at home with their partners during the pandemic. According to survey data, 58% of couples said that the pandemic increased their appreciation for their partners, and nearly half of people in long-term relationships reported that the pandemic deepened their commitment to their partners. As a result, many couples are feeling stronger than ever after the COVID-19 pandemic. In fact, 2019 saw a 50-year low in the national divorce rate.
The likelihood that a couple would report a stronger relationship post-pandemic appears to be tied to the quality of the relationship prior to the pandemic. In other words, strong relationships only became stronger during quarantine, while weaker relationships may have experienced more stress or conflict. Undoubtedly, many couples navigated new challenges due to the COVID-19 pandemic, such as working from home, childcare demands, and less time apart. However, the good news is that couples who were able to effectively cope with these stressors may emerge from the pandemic with a deeper appreciation for and stronger connection to their partners.
YOU MAY SPEND LESS TIME WITH YOUR PARTNER.
Couples who quarantined together during the pandemic became used to spending every waking moment with their significant others. The pandemic accelerated typical relationship timelines by forcing many couples to cohabitate earlier than they may have done otherwise. Couples in the early stages of relationships may have spent more time together than most people in new partnerships, while individuals in long-term relationships or marriages may have seen more of each other than they had in a while!
In some ways, the return to some semblance of "normalcy" after the pandemic may actually improve your relationship with your partner. It is certainly possible for couples to spend too much time together. The pandemic may have encouraged you to rely on your partner for multiple types of emotional nourishment, rather than seeking support from external sources like activities, friends, and family members. Going back to work and hobbies, and spending more time with other people, gives you time to miss your partner, while also taking away some of the pressure on your partner to uplift you emotionally.
In other ways, spending more time away from home may strain your relationship with your partner as you navigate increased commitments outside the house. For example, challenges regarding division of labor may emerge as you and your partner return to your regular routines. Couples with children or pets may have gotten used to dividing responsibilities in a certain way throughout the pandemic. However, as caretakers return to work, there may be disagreements about how to manage these responsibilities moving forward, with the increased demands inflicted by the return to work and other outside activities.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP MAY END -- AND THAT'S OKAY.
Not every relationship is destined to survive the post-pandemic landscape, and that's okay. Whatever your relationship experience after the COVID-19 pandemic, you are deserving of comfort and validation. If you are working through a breakup after the pandemic, you are not alone in your experience. There are many reasons why a relationship may crumble in the aftermath of quarantine, but most indicate that there were interpersonal issues originating before the pandemic that were simply revealed in the heat of the moment.
In some cases, quarantining with a partner during the pandemic may have prolonged the shelf life of an unhealthy or unstable relationship. Other times, the pandemic may have unveiled deep-seated conflicts or differences in values that rendered the relationship unsustainable in the long-term. Whatever the reason for your separation, it's normal to experience a wide range of emotions as you come to terms with the end of any relationship, including those that may have ended due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
The silver lining in this situation is that experiencing the end of a significant relationship due to COVID-19 may change your perspective on dating in the future. According to research conducted by the dating app Hinge, many young people are approaching relationships and dating differently in the post-COVID world. Over ⅔ of Hinge users report that they are being more mindful of what kind of partner they are looking for in the long-term, and more than half say they are now looking for a serious, long-term relationship. While this may not make you feel better about the end of your relationship, it may help to know that the experience of dating during a pandemic has helped many people reflect on the quality of their relationships and make connections that are more meaningful and fulfilling to them.
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